Report one-character non-numeric array indices like longer ones (#5800)

* Report one-character non-numeric array indices like longer ones

A JSON pointer reference token that is not a number but has only one
character (e.g. "/a/x") was reported as out_of_range.404 ("unresolved
reference token"), because the "is not a number" check only ran for
tokens longer than one character; "/a/xy" got parse_error.109. Both now
throw parse_error.109. "-" and the empty token are still reported as
out_of_range.404. As a consequence, value(json_pointer, default) on an
array now throws for "/x" as it already did for "/xy".

Also document why ordered_map::erase's destroy/placement-new loop on
pair<const Key, T> is kept despite [basic.life]/8 before C++20.

Signed-off-by: Niels Lohmann <mail@nlohmann.me>

* Document the one-character array index change

Add 3.13.0 version-history entries to at, operator[], value, patch,
patch_inplace, and unflatten, and describe in exceptions.md which array
indices throw parse_error.109 and which out_of_range.404.

Signed-off-by: Niels Lohmann <mail@nlohmann.me>

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Signed-off-by: Niels Lohmann <mail@nlohmann.me>

docs/mkdocs/docs/api/basic_json/operator[].md

@@ -286,4 +286,6 @@ Strong exception safety: if an exception occurs, the original value stays intact
 3. Added in version 3.11.0. Fixed in version 3.13.0 to consistently accept `std::string_view`-convertible keys, as
    already supported by [`at`](at.md), [`value`](value.md), [`find`](find.md), and other lookup functions.
 4. Added in version 2.0.0. A missing array index in the const version is guarded by a runtime assertion since
-   version 3.13.0.
+   version 3.13.0. Throws [`parse_error.109`](../../home/exceptions.md#jsonexceptionparse_error109) instead of
+[`out_of_range.404`](../../home/exceptions.md#jsonexceptionout_of_range404) for a one-character array index that is not
+a digit (e.g., `/x`) in version 3.13.0, as it already did for longer ones.